1. "事关前途，户口算个屁！户口这东西，与生活中的很多东西一样 — 你在乎它，它就是你的枷锁。"
2. 01/24 - 01/28去了趟冬日里依然山清水秀的广西：
01/24: 抵达桂林，入住花满楼，品尝石记桂林米粉，游览象鼻山、芦笛岩，入夜偶遇众友
01/25: 转战阳朔，入住老班长，逛西街漂漓江，和一堆UK佬包饺子，喝啤酒看春晚，新年到来时再次包饺子
01/26: 细雨伴随新春，结识一帮“乌合之众”；玫瑰木温暖的壁炉旁一杯清茶喝到夜幕降临；谢大姐的啤酒鱼、黄焖鸡增添浓烈的节日气氛；懒人堂装修精美的书房里“升级”正酣，“贱人”小白前来引诱美女；天涯歌手故作沧桑地唱起“当火车开入这座陌生的城市……”，室内燃放的烟花让大家变得无比朦胧
01/27: 马肉米粉，十里画卷，大榕树，三姐，月亮山，月亮妈妈，妖娆的翠竹，让人入迷的田园风光
01/28: 兴坪，烟雨漓江，艾叶粑粑，阳朔->桂林，文明路小南国，“南京”、“真龙”、“月亮”、“咖啡”，在机场被大喇叭点名
3. 阳朔的精华，完全不在那个不伦不类的西街、那些疯狂暧昧的酒吧，而在其秀丽的山水之间矣。
4. 01/29 睡觉睡到得以节省一顿饭钱的时候，回公司彻底理顺Monte Carlo Method相关事宜，完成一篇技术文章，整理完一个系列的email，思路似乎变得清晰了一些.
5. 01/30 十三号线、五号线、天通苑，遇到十多年未见的小学同学、老家亲友。虽是同龄人相见，却几乎不敢相认－他们竟然都如此这般“成熟”了。一顿十二人共享的大火锅，祝愿各位牛年月月大发。陪同众人参观了一套某人年前入手两百多坪的顶层“豪宅”，这些“富足”的东西依然难以让人exciting。
1/31/2009
1/22/2009
Music Journal - Dubai Chillhouse Grooves
The silhouette of the world famous luxury hotel Burj Al Arab is the fantastic eye-catcher for the compilation Dubai Chillhouse Grooves. Sit down, relax and let your feeds jam. Cool chillin beats, jazzy instruments and spacy padsounds make you chill down. This highlight CD has as special the exclusive highlight - title Phil Kinley - funny beach. This title is one of the most played titles at famous chillout places like Cafe del Mar.
Burj Al Arab位于阿拉伯联合酋长国之一的迪拜酋长国，传说中的7星级酒店，其设计描摹了怒涛奔涌的航海景致，酒店高达 321 米，可俯瞰迪拜美丽壮观的海岸线。如此奢华无比的顶级酒店和音乐厂牌合作推出属于自己酒店感觉的音乐专辑,自然也是十分精心、考究的。
Dubai Chillhouse Grooves Vol. 1(2006)- Music List:
01. Clublife - Funny Beach [Summer Chill Mix]
02. Eivizzards - Salinas [Cool and Funky Mix]
03. Dessert Tunes - Sad Escapes [Jumeira Beach Cut]
04. Sunseeker - Turn On [Weaver Mix]
05. Skindive ft. Ino - Bring Me Love [Beachhouse Mix]
06. Eivizzards - The Maze [Chillhouse Mix]
07. Orange Music - Daydreams [Beachhouse Mix]
08. Sunseeker - Soul Devine [Funky Chill Mix]
09. Phil Kinley - Sad Time [Space Mix]
10. Frank Borell - Future Patch [Chill Groove Mix]
11. Dessert Tunes - Remade Sundays [Jazzancolic Mix]
12. Skyway - Golden Memories [Lo-Fi Cut]
01. Noise Boyz - Hand in Hand [Jazzy Mix]
02. Clublife - Viva Cubana [Beach House Mix]
03. Eivizzards - Blue Rose [Fire Mix]
04. Orange Music - Put 'Em Up [Jazz House Mix]
05. Ino & Skindive Inc. - Wishing Love [Groove Mix]
06. Noise Boyz - I'm a Jazzwoman [Cooljazz Mix]
07. Phil Kinley - House Session [Beach Mix]
08. Orange Music - Better Time [Azzpad Mix]
09. Ino & Skindive Inc. - Life Goes Up and Down [Chillhouse Mix]
10. Phil Kinley - Cool Blue Energy [Pad Groove Cut]
11. Chillwalker - The Simple Things [Chillhouse Mix]
12. Chris Kent & Fresh - Evolution FX [Club Mix]
==
两张专辑都是轻松、舒缓的所谓Chill Out风格:含有强烈环境音乐（Ambient）元素的电子音乐。Chill Out虽然不像Techno、Trance、Breakbeat等电子音乐节奏性强，但在它缓慢铺陈的音乐调性之中，表达的是一种状态，慢慢地、循序渐进 地将周围的环境包围，让人渐渐地、不知不觉地融入音乐所营造的气氛情境中……
02. Clublife - Viva Cubana [Beach House Mix]
03. Eivizzards - Blue Rose [Fire Mix]
04. Orange Music - Put 'Em Up [Jazz House Mix]
05. Ino & Skindive Inc. - Wishing Love [Groove Mix]
06. Noise Boyz - I'm a Jazzwoman [Cooljazz Mix]
07. Phil Kinley - House Session [Beach Mix]
08. Orange Music - Better Time [Azzpad Mix]
09. Ino & Skindive Inc. - Life Goes Up and Down [Chillhouse Mix]
10. Phil Kinley - Cool Blue Energy [Pad Groove Cut]
11. Chillwalker - The Simple Things [Chillhouse Mix]
12. Chris Kent & Fresh - Evolution FX [Club Mix]
==
两张专辑都是轻松、舒缓的所谓Chill Out风格:含有强烈环境音乐（Ambient）元素的电子音乐。Chill Out虽然不像Techno、Trance、Breakbeat等电子音乐节奏性强，但在它缓慢铺陈的音乐调性之中，表达的是一种状态，慢慢地、循序渐进 地将周围的环境包围，让人渐渐地、不知不觉地融入音乐所营造的气氛情境中……
1/21/2009
培训手记 - Soft Skill
大概一两个月前参加了一个培训,目的是给大家在提高自己的soft skill方面一些指导。近日翻阅资料时看到相关材料，觉得还是应该把从中学到的东西再整理复习一下，正所谓温故而知新。
Part 1 - Hard Skill VS. Soft Skill
A. Hard Skill
1. Intellectual Horsepower(IQ)(智商)
2. Technical Knowledge(技术知识)
3. Problem Solving(解决问题的能力)
4. Analytical Thinking(分析性思考)
5. Managing Systems and Processes(系统与流程管理)
6. Planning, organizaing and Coordinating(计划组织与协调)
B. Soft Skill
1. Emotional Quotient(情商)
2. Building and Nurturing Relationships(建立与维护关系)
3. Open and Honest Communication(坦诚交流)
4. Composure(镇静)
5. Integrity and Trustworthiness(正直与可信任)
6. Negotiation and Confilict Management(谈判与冲突管理)
7. Interpersonal Skills(人际关系技巧)
8. Conviction and Courage(信念,勇气)
Part 2 - Emotional Quotient
A. What's EQ?
1. The term Emotional Intelligence was invented by Peter Salovey and John Mayer in 1990, and then popularized by Daniel Goleman in 1995
2. "Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.”
3. In Daniel’s book he claims life success is 20% IQ and 80% EQ
B. Characteristics of EQ
1. Self-awareness
2. Mood management
3. Self-motivation
4. Impulse control
5. Interpersonal skills
C. “Rule your feelings, lest your feelings rule you!”
- Publilius Syrus, 1st Century B.C.
D. IQ Dominance VS. EQ Dominance
IQ - Dominant
-Confronts threats head-on
-More effective during times of calm
-Avoids taking risks (intolerant of failure, quick to punish)
-Prone to short-term thinking
-Quick to formulate strategy and implement it
-Fails to act
EQ - Dominant
-Tries to avoid confrontation
-More effective during times of stress/crisis
-Uses more gut feeling
-Prone to long-range thinking
-Spends more time defining problems and strategizing
-Knows when to wait and when to act
F. Model for Emotional Intelligence
Know Yourself – increase self-awareness
-Enhance Emotional Literacy
-Recognize Patterns
Choose Yourself – building self-management
-Apply Consequential Thinking
-Navigate Emotions
-Increase Optimism
-Engage Intrinsic Motivation
Give Yourself – developing self-direction
-Increase Empathy
-Pursue Noble Goals
Part 3 - Success Inhibitors - Things to Avoid
1. Lacking Conviction and Courage
2. Failing to broaden professionally
3. Failing to learn and grow
4. Lacking passion for leading
5. Moving too quickly
6. Lacking a track record of results
7. Not perceived as trustworthy or accountable
8. Shuts down/Shuts out others
9. Not an attractor of talent
10. Lacking an internal network
11. Lacking resilience
Part 4 - How to improve Soft Skill
A. Understand Yourself
-Reading
-Constantly seek feedback from others
-Find a mentor
B. Create a Plan
-Where do I want to go
-How long will it take
-What are the steps to get there
C. Review your Progress
-Where am I on my plan
-Do I need to adjust my plan
-Do I need to adjust my actions
D. Practice, Practice, Practice
-Seek out opportunities
-Public speaking
-Mentoring
-Working with kids
-Leading work projects
Appendix
Practical Advices
-Write in a journal everyday
-Get multiple mentors (peer, up, outside)
-Own your actions/decisions
Reading List
-Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ? (Daniel Goleman)
-Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)
==小结==
虽然越对照越发现自己Hard&Soft方面的Skill都比较的弱，但培训中还是有些东西个人体会比较深：
1. Continously collect feedback from others, Learn from others and learn from practices
2. Plan -> Execution -> Review/Refine -> Plan ...
3. Manage Your Own Success - If You Want Something, Go Get It
4. “Moving too quickly” has tow-fold meanings: one says that you should pace step by step, skipping some important steps leads to failure in the long run; the other says that don't change your work too quickly, stay for enough time to accumulate knowledge, experience and relationships
5. I am asked to care about soft skills very early in my career, but only after this training, I realized that I had ever regard some hard skills as soft skills, for example - analytical thinking, coordinating and organizing
6. Keep learning and trust learning. Both hard skills and soft skills can be learned, trained. Practicing makes perfect also applies to soft skill improvement
Part 1 - Hard Skill VS. Soft Skill
A. Hard Skill
1. Intellectual Horsepower(IQ)(智商)
2. Technical Knowledge(技术知识)
3. Problem Solving(解决问题的能力)
4. Analytical Thinking(分析性思考)
5. Managing Systems and Processes(系统与流程管理)
6. Planning, organizaing and Coordinating(计划组织与协调)
B. Soft Skill
1. Emotional Quotient(情商)
2. Building and Nurturing Relationships(建立与维护关系)
3. Open and Honest Communication(坦诚交流)
4. Composure(镇静)
5. Integrity and Trustworthiness(正直与可信任)
6. Negotiation and Confilict Management(谈判与冲突管理)
7. Interpersonal Skills(人际关系技巧)
8. Conviction and Courage(信念,勇气)
Part 2 - Emotional Quotient
A. What's EQ?
1. The term Emotional Intelligence was invented by Peter Salovey and John Mayer in 1990, and then popularized by Daniel Goleman in 1995
2. "Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.”
3. In Daniel’s book he claims life success is 20% IQ and 80% EQ
B. Characteristics of EQ
1. Self-awareness
2. Mood management
3. Self-motivation
4. Impulse control
5. Interpersonal skills
C. “Rule your feelings, lest your feelings rule you!”
- Publilius Syrus, 1st Century B.C.
D. IQ Dominance VS. EQ Dominance
IQ - Dominant
-Confronts threats head-on
-More effective during times of calm
-Avoids taking risks (intolerant of failure, quick to punish)
-Prone to short-term thinking
-Quick to formulate strategy and implement it
-Fails to act
EQ - Dominant
-Tries to avoid confrontation
-More effective during times of stress/crisis
-Uses more gut feeling
-Prone to long-range thinking
-Spends more time defining problems and strategizing
-Knows when to wait and when to act
F. Model for Emotional Intelligence
Know Yourself – increase self-awareness
-Enhance Emotional Literacy
-Recognize Patterns
Choose Yourself – building self-management
-Apply Consequential Thinking
-Navigate Emotions
-Increase Optimism
-Engage Intrinsic Motivation
Give Yourself – developing self-direction
-Increase Empathy
-Pursue Noble Goals
Part 3 - Success Inhibitors - Things to Avoid
1. Lacking Conviction and Courage
2. Failing to broaden professionally
3. Failing to learn and grow
4. Lacking passion for leading
5. Moving too quickly
6. Lacking a track record of results
7. Not perceived as trustworthy or accountable
8. Shuts down/Shuts out others
9. Not an attractor of talent
10. Lacking an internal network
11. Lacking resilience
Part 4 - How to improve Soft Skill
A. Understand Yourself
-Reading
-Constantly seek feedback from others
-Find a mentor
B. Create a Plan
-Where do I want to go
-How long will it take
-What are the steps to get there
C. Review your Progress
-Where am I on my plan
-Do I need to adjust my plan
-Do I need to adjust my actions
D. Practice, Practice, Practice
-Seek out opportunities
-Public speaking
-Mentoring
-Working with kids
-Leading work projects
Appendix
Practical Advices
-Write in a journal everyday
-Get multiple mentors (peer, up, outside)
-Own your actions/decisions
Reading List
-Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ? (Daniel Goleman)
-Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)
==小结==
虽然越对照越发现自己Hard&Soft方面的Skill都比较的弱，但培训中还是有些东西个人体会比较深：
1. Continously collect feedback from others, Learn from others and learn from practices
2. Plan -> Execution -> Review/Refine -> Plan ...
3. Manage Your Own Success - If You Want Something, Go Get It
4. “Moving too quickly” has tow-fold meanings: one says that you should pace step by step, skipping some important steps leads to failure in the long run; the other says that don't change your work too quickly, stay for enough time to accumulate knowledge, experience and relationships
5. I am asked to care about soft skills very early in my career, but only after this training, I realized that I had ever regard some hard skills as soft skills, for example - analytical thinking, coordinating and organizing
6. Keep learning and trust learning. Both hard skills and soft skills can be learned, trained. Practicing makes perfect also applies to soft skill improvement
1/20/2009
一壶酒，万古销沉
Something really sad happened in the past days，somewhat depressed. Nothing to complain, no one to complain. It's just part of real life.
老姐多年前的预言和警告变成了现实，虽然靠着一些老天爷的辅助，但是无法逃脱的宿命的感觉依旧让人非常沮丧。
那天在亚运村喝了不到一瓶就开始口若悬河，其实倒是有心喝掉一整箱，只是人老身体也已老，再也经不起这样的折腾和摧残了。
前几晚Tutu同学向我大倒苦水，看来我似乎是已经毫无保留地将之纳入，并开始慢慢消化、吸收，直至深入骨髓……
不过，生活依然会继续，未来依然充满期待。毕竟，这个世界依然有着阿兰.达瓦卓玛如此“荡气回肠”的演绎：让人豪气顿生，迷醉于漫漫历史长河之中！
一壶浊酒即可让万古沉疴销散如云烟，作为浩瀚星河中微不足道的一介匹夫，一时得失又何足挂齿?
歌曲：大江东去
歌手：阿兰·达瓦卓玛(Alan)
作曲：岩代太郎
作词：李焯雄
看 大江东去
浪花淘尽千古英雄
笑 指点江山
是非成败俱灰飞烟灭
此地一为别
青山旧 雨初歇 豪情却 向谁说
机遇难赊 东风且暂借
流年似水 足印难重叠
赤壁难辨 风流云散处
只剩下当时明月
[枉海阔天空 故人不曾入梦
几度夕阳红 晚钟
分久必合 合久必分
暂寄天地之间敌友难分
多情应笑我华发生
但为君故独沉吟至今
一时瑜亮 一壶酒 万古销沉
人道是 分久必合 合久必分]
和你终须一别
秋月春风残雪
[ ... ... ]
人生纵使一别
天涯共此明月
老姐多年前的预言和警告变成了现实，虽然靠着一些老天爷的辅助，但是无法逃脱的宿命的感觉依旧让人非常沮丧。
那天在亚运村喝了不到一瓶就开始口若悬河，其实倒是有心喝掉一整箱，只是人老身体也已老，再也经不起这样的折腾和摧残了。
前几晚Tutu同学向我大倒苦水，看来我似乎是已经毫无保留地将之纳入，并开始慢慢消化、吸收，直至深入骨髓……
不过，生活依然会继续，未来依然充满期待。毕竟，这个世界依然有着阿兰.达瓦卓玛如此“荡气回肠”的演绎：让人豪气顿生，迷醉于漫漫历史长河之中！
一壶浊酒即可让万古沉疴销散如云烟，作为浩瀚星河中微不足道的一介匹夫，一时得失又何足挂齿?
歌曲：大江东去
歌手：阿兰·达瓦卓玛(Alan)
作曲：岩代太郎
作词：李焯雄
看 大江东去
浪花淘尽千古英雄
笑 指点江山
是非成败俱灰飞烟灭
此地一为别
青山旧 雨初歇 豪情却 向谁说
机遇难赊 东风且暂借
流年似水 足印难重叠
赤壁难辨 风流云散处
只剩下当时明月
[枉海阔天空 故人不曾入梦
几度夕阳红 晚钟
分久必合 合久必分
暂寄天地之间敌友难分
多情应笑我华发生
但为君故独沉吟至今
一时瑜亮 一壶酒 万古销沉
人道是 分久必合 合久必分]
和你终须一别
秋月春风残雪
[ ... ... ]
人生纵使一别
天涯共此明月
1/19/2009
我写故我在(11)
1. 越是真实、越是充满细节的生活，似乎越让人觉得越不太真实。难道这就是未来几十年的人生? 倒是越来越开始觉得自己过往的坚持是一笔宝贵的财富。
2. 美好同学面临诸多人生的抉择，昨晚与其简单聊了聊一些看法。作为接近90后的80后，能有如此成熟的想法，如此明确的追求，实在太难得了。不过也难免犯一些好孩子很容易犯的错误：为家人和朋友做了太多不必要的牺牲。看来：理想主义者身上，多少都会有些悲剧性格的影子 － 为了所谓的梦想，他们急切着牺牲自我。
3. 周日(18/01)，V3+1难得在亚运村附近齐聚。吹牛吹得有些口干舌燥，回来后反省，发觉自己似乎离印象中的自我越来越远了，还是应该更加低调务实点。
4. Rss Reader上的source越来越多，按分类扫描标题倒是不错的节省时间的方法，但是只有对新闻类rss而言，这种做法才不会遗漏重要信息。对信息容量大的rss，提高阅读速度还是唯一的法则。使用online RSS reader的另外一个问题在于如何选择精读内容。如果缺乏适量的精读，一方面会导致阅读能力下降，另一方面也会使得思考和认识习惯于停留表面。深度、广度与效率，这三者trade off起来，倒不是那么容易。
2. 美好同学面临诸多人生的抉择，昨晚与其简单聊了聊一些看法。作为接近90后的80后，能有如此成熟的想法，如此明确的追求，实在太难得了。不过也难免犯一些好孩子很容易犯的错误：为家人和朋友做了太多不必要的牺牲。看来：理想主义者身上，多少都会有些悲剧性格的影子 － 为了所谓的梦想，他们急切着牺牲自我。
3. 周日(18/01)，V3+1难得在亚运村附近齐聚。吹牛吹得有些口干舌燥，回来后反省，发觉自己似乎离印象中的自我越来越远了，还是应该更加低调务实点。
4. Rss Reader上的source越来越多，按分类扫描标题倒是不错的节省时间的方法，但是只有对新闻类rss而言，这种做法才不会遗漏重要信息。对信息容量大的rss，提高阅读速度还是唯一的法则。使用online RSS reader的另外一个问题在于如何选择精读内容。如果缺乏适量的精读，一方面会导致阅读能力下降，另一方面也会使得思考和认识习惯于停留表面。深度、广度与效率，这三者trade off起来，倒不是那么容易。
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